With all the uncertainties, battles and struggles life throws at us, it would be a fallacy to claim that you haven’t lost yourself at least once😵‍💫.

It’s a beautiful thing to know that we all are simultaneously at different phases of life⛓️- the times in your life when you feel lost and unseen, others feel like their very best selves🥰 and vice versa. While you’re struggling to rebuild yourself, another is smashing their goals- that’s just how life is🤷‍♀️.

You all should know by now that I rarely share any piece without making reference to myself🙃, my personal experience, I like to keep it real💯. I’ve had life changing experiences that literally left me with nothing🗑; experiences that have made me time and again question my worth, value and essence of living really🤦‍♂️.

Panic attacks felt like a Whiteman thing to me until I had mine, severally☻️. Those were times I thought would never end, I’d cry so much because of how frustrated I was from feeling that I wasn’t making any progress😬, from knowing what my problem was but finding absolutely no solution to it😵. The best word I have to describe that experience is “torture”.

After struggling for months to regain myself, I’m glad to write that being able to publish this post today is a sign of the tremendous progress I have made💃. Imagine suddenly losing interest in everything that brought you joy and pleasure, seeing yourself doing things you never thought you would, all because of an experience that literally ridded you of everything you knew to be true and real, waking up one day to the realization that you no longer know who you are👤.

I’m sure these are words some of you have hoped to hear or read somewhere, someday; words that would remind you that there are people who understand what we have going on❤️.

I just took a deep breath, lol😂, a sigh of relief because I’m finally approaching the part where I get to tell you that there’s light at the end of the tunnel, however cliché that may sound🤪.

We all want to hurry ourselves out of every valley we find ourselves in, when a lot of times there’s so much to learn right in that low😌. It’s quite disheartening to feel like you’re trying to catch your breath😫 at every moment because of how overwhelmed you are, but I can tell you from experience that befriending the storm🌪 is the best thing you can do for yourself. It took a while to accept this but I have no regrets because the depth of growth that has emanated from this singular repeated act is almost extraordinary🤭. I had to force myself to sit in the midst of the chaos until I realised how much I needed to be there👩, and when I did, every trace of haste became history to me.

What I’m trying to say in essence is that you need not rush out of every discomfort or find a temporary fix to every challenge you encounter🙃, the solution is right in the midst of the chaos, all you need to do is tarry 📌. Allow yourself to feel and let the tears lose, do that as often as you need to because that is the beginning of your healing and learning journey😁. Healing takes time, rebuilding takes time but the sacrifice cannot be compared to the result✔️.

On a final note, when you get to the point where you begin to feel like yourself again🥰, when you are no longer sitted but standing in the valley🤗, that’s not the time to start running🙅‍♀️, rather, rebuild slowly starting with baby steps. Rebuild your values, worth, passions, interests and focus, rebuild your person! Trust me, when you begin to run again you won’t even realise it until you have covered many miles😘.

Thank you for reading🤗, please leave your comments behind so we can gist in the comment section, also remember to share if you enjoyed reading this❤️.