I usually sit back in my room or may be in the kitchen, in class and even especially in the bathroom to think through and about a whole lot of things. Things of the future and those of the past.
The ones of the past usually hit certain nerves especially those cutaneous ones that carry pain fibres cause as I’ve heard, our brains tend to remember the bad memories than the good ones.
I really used to do the blame game a lot. I used to blame myself for the things that went “wrong” in my life and even those of others sometimes.
I thought about the ‘bad’ things for so long, in anger and guilt most times that it made me realize certain things. I asked myself some questions like “Were you happy when you did this?” “Was that what you really wanted to do?” “Did you feel compelled to do it?” and ultimately, “If you’re faced with this situation again, will you do the same thing?”
The answers I gave myself were answers that pointed to the fact that I had no regrets. Many of the things I’ve done; both “good” and “bad”, are things I’m likely going to repeat if I’m faced with those situations again, so what’s the point regretting?
I believe that life is a process and everything that happens does not happen by chance. There’s something to learn or unlearn when we access or ponder on the things that happen to us and this is how we grow.
So yes, I live my life without regrets and I urge you all to do the same. Please share your views with me by commenting below and share with family and friends. I look forward to knowing what you think about this.
Anidom 
Yes… there are no regrets only lessons.Our past experiences can shape us to be a better person before our future.
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Absolutely..
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I totally can relate with this. Nice comment…even if you regret don’t dwell on it.
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This is true. \”Regret of the past and fear of the future\”. These myths will never get to us. Cheers to no regrets!
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Regret is a myth..lolYeah,just like fear is..you embrace reality,the moment you realise regret is just you trying to fix the past,and fear,just like it,is trying to fix the future…These two things are some how unreal,they rather keep us in shadow of ourselves,keep us from the reality of the present,keep us from making use of what we have right in our hands…. We regret the past, and fear the future…but neither of these two defines the present…they are just mirages,keeping us from reality and drawing us away from our real self…. Just like we all said,\”There is no regret\”it only exists when we allow it to…And yeah,It can always be kept in extinction,forever….
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This is a really sweet one and very real too. I love your story❤️. Thank you for sharing with me.
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'She immediately regret her words' I always try to do as much as I can do.I'm never a person that does not enough, because I'd regret not doing enough and think I probably could have done more.I probably go too far and have to reel myself back in,which works in some things and other things it doesn't work.I regret having to fail an exam.I always blame myself for not passing that test,not getting that cumulative,not going along with my mates,I practical planned myself for everything. I've been so fortunate because I never had ups and downs as far as my career…but alas this time around it was different.A regret that damaged my self esteem, my spirituality and my relationship with others.I regret ever going down that lane.But in the end it built me into someone better.Regrets on the long run are yardstick to becoming a better version of yourself, if you don't dwell on it and move on….But now I've grown to appreciate the power of believing in myself and of always having faith in myself. I rarely look back, instead, I always look forward.There is so much of life that we miss when we wallow in regret. It sounds so simple,but if you just be yourself, you're different than anyone else.It's not the things we do in life that we regret, it's the things we do not.But one thing that keeps me going and I say to myself… \”There's no regret. You can't regret. I mean I've felt regret but I've also refused to allow regret to sow a seed and live in me because I don't believe it. You feel it,it's like guilt,its like jealousy, it's like all those horrible things. You've just got to ship them and get them out, because they are no good.\” yes..there's no regret \”
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Thank you for sharing you view. We in this together. No regrets!
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Hmmmm, RegretSometimes I actually do think about the past, about the bad and good experienceThe bad actually hurts, but the truth is that I have no regret. Some these bad experiences are real lessons and so they tend in building me up, like to a very popular proverb, which states that, experience is the best teacher. Experience at times helps a person grow really strong.
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Thank you. And I'm glad we have a mutual point of view. The truth is they are things I would love to have done differently, but either ways, no regrets…!
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Regret…eem, I think it also boils down to the degree of the so called 'bad' experiences. Some may be so devastating that you may not be given a second chance… But life itself is a process, you wouldn't have known everything you know now without having those experiences.For me I don't have to regret for anything I have done in the past because the degree of them all did not put an end to me… some actually made me stronger to be able to face life challenges more squarely, But I may not choose the same path if I'm given a second chance, not because of regret but because I have learnt a few lessons from the few wrong moves I have made in the past. Now I know what I would have done better in some situations.Experience is a lead for the future , no regrets at all
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