I have discovered from personal experience that doing all you can in order not to get anyone offended, also known as walking on eggshells, doesn’t prevent you from offending people, matter of fact, you actually annoy people a lot even without realising😂.

You unconsciously begin to think that you always do the right thing💯 that everyone wants, you become adamant to correction, and closed-minded to any perspective other than yours🥶. This is largely because you believe you’re doing all you can to please🥺 and live up to the standards of everyone around you- how exhausting!😪.

I’m personally not a people person, however, I can be goofy with the people I’m most comfortable with, but I won’t even exhaust the fingers on one of my hands if I were to number them😬😂. I don’t necessarily like being around people that aren’t my friends🥱 and in most public places, my phone and I spend time bonding🤣🤣.

In 2019, there was this lady in my class, jovial🤩, bright, you know, all that good stuff🤪. I admired how she used to relate with people. From my point of view, it was a beautiful life😍- having something to talk about with almost everybody and everyone seeming to like you, it really caught my fancy🥰.

I started trying to be like her- talking to people more often, racking my brain for possible conversation topics🤯, and literally laughing with everyone. This was nice at first, I thought “everyone will like now😏”, it continued for a while until I realised how unhappy I was😔, and how doing all that was ripping me of my amazing personality😁.

I eventually stopped doing that🥰 and thought that was the end of my people-pleasing habit until 2020 when I realised that for someone who comes off as and talks to people about having a healthy self-image and esteem👸, I was far gone in my self-deprecation journey🙆.

…to be continued.

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