I was lying pretty exhausted😫 in bed today after a long but enriching conversation with a friend. So I decided that before going to bed, I’d finish up the chapter I was currently at in a book I was reading: Before You Do by T.D.Jakes. So I went into the bathroom with my book in my hands and of course my pen, and I sat to have a poop 💩😂. But I’m sure you can relate to those moments you end up going to the loo in vain, only to realize that thirty minutes later. Well, I eventually gave up on my digestive system and left for the comfort of my bed.

Lying down, I quickly finished up the chapter, titled Before You Place Your Love Order. I must say, I learnt a lot from that chapter but one striking thing about the chapter is that it talked about how we order a lot of things online but not get satisfied by what we receive eventually. He beautifully related this to our love lives as humans. How we often go after what appears to be what we like or long for, ignoring the red flags(the fine prints on your order).
We go after these things we see in people and imagine the perfect life we can share with them, just like you imagine yourself in that beautiful body con dress or that vintage shirt, but forget to read the product material, size, colour and other important details.

This chapter made me remember one time I ordered a jumpsuit online. When it arrived, I was firstly disappointed by the material that was used in making it, only for me to try it on and realize it was oversized😧. I immediately decided that I was definitely going to return it. I called to lodge my complaint and I was asked to return it to their delivery centre within a time frame.

Unfortunately😪, I couldn’t meet up because I was caught up with exams✍🏽, so I ended up being stuck with this jumpsuit🤷🏽‍♀️.
I abandoned it in my box for months after which I decided to take it for adjustment. I amended it and decided to wear for my 19th birthday🎂.
Even if no one told me, I knew I looked awful in it and I felt really uncomfortable but I decided to ignore that feeling and focus on the beautiful things happening on my birthday🥳🥰 .
I never wore that jumpsuit after that day until recently at a family function. After the function, my mum (Mothers are Lifesavers by the way) told me how awful I looked in it😂 and well, I didn’t argue because I already knew exactly what she was talking about. Now I have decided that I’m never putting it on again😂. I’ll probably give it to someone it will look better on.

Now what’s my point?🤔 Sometimes we get into relationships all because of the things we can see. The looks, style, hairdo, money and many more, forgetting the personalities of these persons and yeah, how compatible we may be. We imagine how our relationships would🥰 be even before the first “hello”🌚, we assume that people are a certain way before actually getting to know them🤷🏽‍♀️, hence our high expectations and recurrent disappointments🤦🏽‍♀️😫.

Other times, we see these fine prints: those things we know we can’t live with or tolerate and yet we go ahead planning to fix it just like what I tried doing with my jumpsuit💁🏽‍♀️.

We take up responsibilities and do many other things without paying attention to the fine prints, without thinking about the demands of these responsibilities; if we can actually live with them or not. The worse thing is that after we finally realise that we can’t go on anymore, we feel bad about withdrawing, we think about how the person or people involved would feel and what they would say🤕😓.

Sometimes, we try to “fix”🤨 people so they can fit into our lives, and this doesn’t usually happen☹️. We end up being frustrated and also frustrate the person or people involved🤧🤕😪. God alone can “fix” anyone, including you.
Truth is, we put ourselves and others under a lot of pain and pressure when we ignore the fine prints, those things we don’t see at a glance.🙁
We have to get to the point where we realise ought to learn to put all things under consideration, leaving nothing out before we decide to do that “thing”😌.

Thank you for reading. Please remember to share your views with me in the comment section below.❤️