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Same Coin, Two Faces🪙

I’m slowly beginning to choke on how much I want to say to you via this blog. Its been so long and I not only miss doing this but I kind of feel sick about it at this point🤢. Trying to balance my career with all the other things I want to do hasn’t been the easiest thing to do.

But for the first time, here I am seated at my reading table at 5:46am writing this piece with my exams just a few days away🤭 because I just remembered how therapeutic doing this is for me, this has forced me to do this for you and even myself at the end of the day🤷‍♀️.

I see so many videos out there about “how to do this” “how to do that” “how to choose right” “how to know when it’s right” and a lot more. I used to watch a lot of these videos in the past and I still do sometimes although not like before. After a couple of years of trial and error, I have come to realise that there is really is no written manual when it comes to these things. It is not a one size fits all kinda thing.

People act like gods in certain areas just because they have succeeded in those things😁, in asmuch as I a thousand times cannot disregard their experiences, sometimes, they really did nothing special, nothing out of the box, nothing you haven’t done a thousand times over in many different ways😌. As it is important to use people’s experiences as a guide to your path, it is also very important to remember that everyone threads on a path unique to them👣.

Two persons can say the same prayer🙏 in the same measure and have the same amount of faith but just one of them will get it in the end, does this now mean that the other person didn’t know what to do or didn’t do it well? That may not be the case. An unanswered prayer may be God’s way of ensuring that you remain on the path He has specially curated for you📌 and His answered prayer to the other person is also His way of ensuring that the other person remains on the path He has curated for him or her.

Many of us prayed to God earnestly and did all we could to “get it right the first time” in many areas of our lives; many of us with our then relatively equal levels of ignorance, childishness and weaknesses. But in the end, some of us got what we asked for🤩 while some others did not☻️. Some work very hard and pray very hard to succeed in their careers, yet there is little or nothing to show for it. Others do the exact same thing and flourish🌿. It is not always black or white, we often overlook the grey areas🕸. There is a place for prayers and hardwork but there also a place for mercy and the will of God.

Comaprison will take you no where and if anywhere at all, backwards without a stutter😩😂. If you look closely at the lives of those with whom you compare yourself, there are certain areas they are struggling with that you do or get with ease, do you think they do not desire such ease in those areas as well🤔? It’s really just same coin with two faces, same situation, just rearranged🙃.

This is not to disregard the place for mentorship, even as you read, I am in search of a mentor🤭. This is just to say that you shouldn’t expect your life to mirror anybody’s. Use their experiences as a guide to avoid certain mistakes🙅‍♀️ and reach your goal faster💯 but ensure that in the midst of it all, you’re not so carried away by their result that you end up missing yours. Let God lead you. Selah.

Thank you for coming around❤️, don’t forget to leave your comments behind😌. Until next time, my people🍻.

Goals, Success, and Things In-between🪄😊

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“I have really big plans this year!🥳 After not doing a lot last year, this is definitely the year I’ll beat all my expectations✅. No time to check time⌚, I’ll spend every minute of my day being productive💯.” said Emily as she walked briskly down the stairs with her best friend👭 Noella. “Well, this year I won’t even stress myself🛀, what will be will be🤷‍♀️, I’ll simply go with the flow. I honestly do not want to make plans I know that I’ll end up not keeping up with, so there’s really no point🙄.”

I remember when I was in 200 level, I was in my class trying to study📚, when a senior colleague came to sit by me. It was one of those many days that medicine was driving me insane🤒😵. There he was trying to give me exam tips, and there I was, too tensed to even recognize the help he was freely offering😕. “Anita you need to calm down” he said, “no time to check time” was my response😂. This statement must have discouraged him, cause he left me alone thereafter😂😂.

I know, it’s 2022 and you’re yet to finish that project, close that deal✅, become a millionaire💸, write that book📕 or startup that business📦, and most of your friends have gone ahead of you. You’re worried that you may never be able to get to where you really want to be, so just like Emily, you’ve probably made unrealistic plans and set unbelievable deadlines for yourself. At the moment, it may feel like you’re killing it but dear it’s just day 15 of 365!😕, there’s still 350 days left, will you be able to keep up?🤔

It’s okay to have plans, matter of fact, it is essential if you want to make progress in life💯, I recommend that you make plans rather than casually going with the flow like Noella intends to😶. What may not be healthy for you is making plans and setting deadlines that you truly know you cannot attain just because you’re under pressure to get to where others are🤷‍♀️.

There’s the drive to make big plans, because who doesn’t want to be successful at doing what they love😊? This drive will help us achieve our goals. But there’s a thin line between healthily achieving your goals and driving yourself into unhealthy states like depression🤕 because of the ravishing drive to do so much at a time😬.

If you are constantly at a place where you set goals with deadlines you’re hardly able to reach😪, you may slip into a state of low self esteem😑, sadness☹ and even depression😟, because thoughts like “I can’t do anything right”, “I’m not good at anything”, “Why am I the only one who doesn’t seem to know what I’m doing?”, won’t cease to feast in your mind😑.

You know what I think about goals? I think you should start with a prayer🙏, write down what you’d like to do✍, calculate what you think is required to achieve them🔢➕, ask questions❓ and actively involve people relevant in the field🧑‍🤝‍🧑👩‍🔧- mentorship and accountability👨‍👧 cannot be overemphasised, make research💻, write out steps on how you intend to achieve these goals📝, then calculate the time you think will be required to achieve all of it⏰- be generous with the time! I’m not saying you should assign 2 years to a project that you know you can finish up in 6 months so you have all the time to procastinate, no❌❗ I’m saying that you can really set goals with deadlines and end up achieving little or nothing😪 when enough time for work and rest haven’t been allocated to yourself and your teammates💁. Dear, in contrast to what I used think🙄, there is time to check time and full attention is required for goals to be achieved👌, trust me, I eventually had to calm down to check my time and allocate it appropriately💯, so please check time! And finally, remember to take one day at a time😊.

You can focus on a thing at a time, or more than one thing at a time, depending on your capacity💪, ensuring that enough planning and time are allocated to all🤲, and priority to the most important at every moment🤝. It’s really not just about speed🏃‍♀️ or having a lot on your plate🍛😂, but getting them done with excellence💥, while your passion for them thrives🥰 is even more important.

After reading this, please go back to your plans and review, but this time be a bit more realistic about it😌, get to work and don’t forget to allocate time for rest🧖‍♀️ and recreation🚵‍♀️🏊‍♂️.

Thank you for reading❤, I hope you’ve been able to pick a thing or two from this piece.

Please don’t hesitate to share your opinions with me, I look for to reading them💯. Have a beautiful year😘.

Later, more like never🤷

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I was going to start this write up with laughing emojis cause I’m actually laughing right now, but I just thought that starting with that would probably scare you off, so I’m just going to put it right here”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂”.

I’m quite sure that we all are guity of this one😬! Proudly blush😊 if you truly have never planned to do something, procrastinated and ended up not doing it😏😂. If you’re blushing right now, then you should inform me in the comment section oh cause òmò, I have a lot to learn from you then😏, come and teach me how you do it bayi🤲.

Unfortunately🥲, I have a good number of personal examples of many “laters” that became “nevers”, a classic one I’ll be sharing with you is one that you’re well aware of🤪.

Anidom! I’m sure you guessed right🙃. For the first half of last year, I planned to put something down, and in every of those months, I put nothing down😂. I didn’t realise that it had been so long since I uploaded something until the day I wrote this piece, it was 10 months since my last published post!😬. I’m sorry guys, for starving you this long😓. Being very honest, it was one hell of a year last year but God helped me😇.

Procrastination is a vicious enemy of progress in life, it’s your sworn enemy; well, after the devil😈🙃. Procrastination will constantly keep you under pressure and deprive you of your well-deserved rest. It’ll make you always be in a hurry! I don’t like the sound of that😑 and I’m quite sure nobody does🤕.

You know, there’s this sense of fulfillment that comes with doing what you ought to do when you ought to do it😉😎, having peace of mind after, and even having room to do more! Exciting right?🥳 You live in your most productive element when you do what you plan to do on time, and you’re able to give it your best💯. People will look at you and wonder what the secret is behind the balance they see in your life😉.

I’m not even going to lie to you, it’s very easy to procastinate and it can be quite difficult not to, it takes determination and courage, but actually starts with a DECISION🥸. You have to sit down and make up your mind to stop procrastinating already, cause really, it’s high time you did😌.

I know you have ideas, big plans🤑 and you’ve imagined how far you can actually go with that plan, how beautiful🥰 your life would be and how happy🥳 you would be if you’re able to accomplish your plans🤩. One thing that would go a long way in helping you is if you decide to start today. What better time to start other than the first day of the year?🤠

It doesn’t even have to be a big project🤷‍♀️, it may just be as little as your school assignment, calling that friend or family member you haven’t heard from in a long while🤭, getting your laundry done(I also detest doing laundry😂😪), saying a prayer or reading your Bible😇, reading or completing that topic😉, reading that chapter of that book that’s probably already covered in dust😶 or simply getting your chores done👍.

Sincerely, I procastinate too and it’s not always easy😔, but it isn’t something we can’t overcome and yeah, it’s worth it in the end. Totally💯.

So I urge you today, as I do myself, to start now😘, start today❤.

What’s that one thing you know that you procastinate a lot? Drop it in the comment section let’s talk🤗.

Thank you for stopping by to read this piece today❤.

Happy New Year💘