And she walked quietly past the boys at the corner of the hall, with her head faced down, buried in the pile of books in her hands. “Look! It’s Kimberly; World Ugliest Being” Mark said, and all his friends burst into laughter. Kimberly walked straight into the rest room and cried her eyes out. It wasn’t the first, second, third or even the last time this was going to happen.
Jackson was from an average family, he wasn’t the brightest in class and he was a stutterer. All the girls in school despised and always made fun of him. He couldn’t even attend Prom because he had no date; every girl he asked turned him down shamefully. This brought him down daily and affected his self-esteem.
We live in a world where almost every corner we turn to has something discouraging for us. As we pick up our mobile phones daily, we come across a lot of things online, some sent personally to us, and others, random things that just bring us down in some type of way.
Even when we don’t pick up our phones, the people we see physically don’t always help matters. These persons could be your family members, friends, colleagues or even a random person, that just have something negative to say to or about you. Many times we get to hear things like: “What does this small boy think he’s doing? In a short time, it’ll crash.” “This ugly girl just keeps hovering around my face” “She’s so dumb! Why can’t she just be like her friend Hannah?” “If only Jimmy’s shoes could talk, they’d have begged him to give them a break!”
The truth is that the negativity out there is through the roof! And yes! There’s little or nothing we can do about that. People will ALWAYS have every negative thing to say about you or what you do. But you have to get to the point where you realize that it’s NOT your responsibility to make someone like you or what you do; it’s solely their decision! If you go around trying to make people like you or accept what you’re doing, you’re really going to end up being a mediocre. Stop trying to please everyone, you weren’t made for that! Even Jesus wasn’t liked by everyone.
Sometimes, you hear certain things about yourself and you’re shocked that it’s you they are actually referring to. I personally, am a victim. The truth is that hearing negative things about yourself can stop you, but only if you let it. You have to be able to settle it with yourself that you’re going to keep hearing negative things about yourself and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it, and so you won’t let it stop you or determine who you are.
I’m at a point in my life where the negative things I hear about myself no longer stop me, they slow me down sometimes but do you know what I do then? I pray, I pray that God helps me to move past them and then I go on to remind myself who I am and Whose I am (God’s) and everything I am going to achieve and how bright my future is!
Constructive criticism on the other hand is “the process of offering valid and well-reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving both positive and negative comments, in a friendly manner rather than an oppositional one.” Copied. I believe in constructive criticism because I’m convinced that it’s one of the best ways to grow and be better. It doesn’t involve insults but rather sincere comments on both the positive and negative aspects of your work or even you as a person, all in a friendly manner. I think we all should try to pay attention to constructive criticisms because it’ll help us a great deal.
Try to be your Number 1 Fan! I’m usually the first to like all my posts on social media because I’m my greatest Fan. You don’t always have to wait for someone to tell you how beautiful or handsome you are or how good you look. You should be the first to tell that to yourself because your opinion about yourself matters more than anyone else’s and how you carry and present yourself, is how you’re going to be treated; if you see yourself as intelligent, bold, beautiful, handsome, confident, etc., that’s how every other person will see you and if you see yourself as the lazy, dumb and ugly one, that’s what others will see also.
I don’t know about you, but whenever I look at myself at the mirror and tell myself how beautiful, good-looking and brainy I am, my confidence throughout that day will be out of this world! So why not do it daily? If you walk around confidently, you’ll be respected. Go try it if you doubt me.
I’m also going to mention that you should try to put on what you’re comfortable in, it’ll boost your confidence. I’m sure most of us have being in situations where we have felt like hiding in a public place because we don’t like how we look; that’s usually quite funny and very embarrassing. Why not reduce the frequency of that by putting on what makes you happy and comfortable?
I think sometimes you may need a little push. You may forget who you are and what you carry and so that push may be required. That’s why we need positive and like-minded persons around us always. STAY AWAY from bad energy!
Lastly and most importantly, don’t leave God out of the picture. You’re made in His image and likeness; you’re the prince/princess of Heaven so act like it! Knowing that you have the backing of a Supreme Being is the greatest feeling you could ever experience.
So ladies and gentlemen, Don’t Let Them Tell You Who You Are, Tell Them Who You Are!
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