Growing up as the first daughter, I’m used to having things go my way most times🌚. As weird and toxic😅 as that may sound, I know it’s true for a lot of people.
I always got to have my way especially with my younger siblings; I tell them what to do and not do, and they just have to comply🙄😁. This “philosophy” worked quite well for me until I had the opportunity to interact with a larger crowd.
I still didn’t realise it was so much of an issue until it started affecting my relationship with people sadly🥲. A lot of unmet expectations made me unable to see beyond my eyelids, the beautiful things my loved ones were doing for me😔.
Truly, too many demands and expectations won’t let them love you as much as they’d like and shockingly, as much as you’d like also. Love thrives in an atmosphere that’s condusive; where it can be accepted just the way it is🥰.
Unfortunately (or may be not), we are not in control of how people act, neither are we in control of how people decide to treat us🤷♀️. Letting love in means letting lose🤗, being vulnerable🙂, taking the risk of pulling out your happy🥳 or not so happy🤕 heart from the shields of your ribcage and putting it in the hands of another who claims to love you😬, without knowing for sure what he or she would do to or with it- yeah I know, terrifying right😶😖? You really don’t know if your heart would remain in it’s former state(likely not😶), or if it would fare better😊 or worse😑.
You know, before you invest in a business, you make calculations, and ensure that the chances of you making it big outweighs that of you incurring a huge loss, and even at that, you likely wouldn’t put in all your resources right?🤷♂️ It’s quite similar with love except that in this case, you’ll be putting in all of your heart, not some of it🙃.
Loving and being loved indeed is a risk😬 we take because really, we can’t exactly control how it’d go since it’s not a sole proprietorship but a partnership, and it goes 50-50😁. It’s not just our input alone that matters but another’s as well.
Loving a person and being loved by them takes way more than a decision😌, a confession🙈, or a nice gesture😻. It takes faith🤍; a courageous leap of faith. Cause whether we like it or not, there’s no other thing to hold on to except having a positive mindset, doing your best and believing that it wouldn’t end in tears😂.
Thank you for reading. Please remember to share your views with me in the comment section below.❤️
Anidom 
So many beautiful lines. Welm written Annie
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Thank you🤍.
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My favorite part of this beautiful, heartfelt writing is the part on expectations. Expectation are the one of the quickest ways to unhappiness. But then, how can we love without certain expectations?
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I know right.. certain expectations can literally kill love.. lol.
I believe we should have expectations, but realistic ones. Let’s trying weighing our circumstances before setting expectations. Also, I believe that communicating our expectations to our significant other would go a long way in helping our relationships thrive, and yeah, it should be a two-way thing. Thank you for reading dear❤.
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Okay.. it’s a nice writing. Weldon. I just come to realize,most times we love selfishly. That is where the risk comes in. If we love based on how love is meant to work, the risks will be at a minimal. Because you put the one you love first not minding yourself. In the case of today we put ourselves first and desiring the other to meet up with our desires or matter still, our commands in the corridor of loving that person. I fall in this category as well. This is why I have retraced my steps. I show really love for no particular person but to all. By doing that,I will eventually fine the particular individual that I know the risk will be little be little. Like it or not yes,you risk when you love.
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Truly, loving is a risk that’s where faith comes in.
Most of us love selfishly, I won’t even call it love cause love is not selfish. Just like you have done, I hope we all retrace ours steps and try to do better. Thank you for reading😊.
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The writing is a wake up call. Thank you…
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I feel love is like a coat of many colors, unpredictable of its texture, or shades, like you said it’s a partnership, two must align, but let’s not forget that human mentality differs, so even when you are in love with another, it can’t work when you don’t agree, sad!! Love is a risk because you put yourself out to getting hurt but it’s also beautiful when you meet your match, love is complicated when that person you love fails to understand you, love is cruel when you lost that one person you connect with, love is heals and it kills
Love is good and bad
I feel as human beings we have to experience all shades of love ( good and bad) because it’s not a fairy tale it’s a big emotion that is alive . I hope love brings more good than bad to me and you
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Wow! “I hope love brings more good than bad to me and you”.
Thank you so much dear, I totally agree with you❤.
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#Caleb sule
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More grace dear
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Amen, thank you
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This is a very nice piece. Love needs understanding to flourish and I agree totally. More grace to write and inspire dear.
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