Fine Prints✍️

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I was lying pretty exhausted😫 in bed today after a long but enriching conversation with a friend. So I decided that before going to bed, I’d finish up the chapter I was currently at in a book I was reading: Before You Do by T.D.Jakes. So I went into the bathroom with my book in my hands and of course my pen, and I sat to have a poop 💩😂. But I’m sure you can relate to those moments you end up going to the loo in vain, only to realize that thirty minutes later. Well, I eventually gave up on my digestive system and left for the comfort of my bed.

Lying down, I quickly finished up the chapter, titled Before You Place Your Love Order. I must say, I learnt a lot from that chapter but one striking thing about the chapter is that it talked about how we order a lot of things online but not get satisfied by what we receive eventually. He beautifully related this to our love lives as humans. How we often go after what appears to be what we like or long for, ignoring the red flags(the fine prints on your order).
We go after these things we see in people and imagine the perfect life we can share with them, just like you imagine yourself in that beautiful body con dress or that vintage shirt, but forget to read the product material, size, colour and other important details.

This chapter made me remember one time I ordered a jumpsuit online. When it arrived, I was firstly disappointed by the material that was used in making it, only for me to try it on and realize it was oversized😧. I immediately decided that I was definitely going to return it. I called to lodge my complaint and I was asked to return it to their delivery centre within a time frame.

Unfortunately😪, I couldn’t meet up because I was caught up with exams✍🏽, so I ended up being stuck with this jumpsuit🤷🏽‍♀️.
I abandoned it in my box for months after which I decided to take it for adjustment. I amended it and decided to wear for my 19th birthday🎂.
Even if no one told me, I knew I looked awful in it and I felt really uncomfortable but I decided to ignore that feeling and focus on the beautiful things happening on my birthday🥳🥰 .
I never wore that jumpsuit after that day until recently at a family function. After the function, my mum (Mothers are Lifesavers by the way) told me how awful I looked in it😂 and well, I didn’t argue because I already knew exactly what she was talking about. Now I have decided that I’m never putting it on again😂. I’ll probably give it to someone it will look better on.

Now what’s my point?🤔 Sometimes we get into relationships all because of the things we can see. The looks, style, hairdo, money and many more, forgetting the personalities of these persons and yeah, how compatible we may be. We imagine how our relationships would🥰 be even before the first “hello”🌚, we assume that people are a certain way before actually getting to know them🤷🏽‍♀️, hence our high expectations and recurrent disappointments🤦🏽‍♀️😫.

Other times, we see these fine prints: those things we know we can’t live with or tolerate and yet we go ahead planning to fix it just like what I tried doing with my jumpsuit💁🏽‍♀️.

We take up responsibilities and do many other things without paying attention to the fine prints, without thinking about the demands of these responsibilities; if we can actually live with them or not. The worse thing is that after we finally realise that we can’t go on anymore, we feel bad about withdrawing, we think about how the person or people involved would feel and what they would say🤕😓.

Sometimes, we try to “fix”🤨 people so they can fit into our lives, and this doesn’t usually happen☹️. We end up being frustrated and also frustrate the person or people involved🤧🤕😪. God alone can “fix” anyone, including you.
Truth is, we put ourselves and others under a lot of pain and pressure when we ignore the fine prints, those things we don’t see at a glance.🙁
We have to get to the point where we realise ought to learn to put all things under consideration, leaving nothing out before we decide to do that “thing”😌.

Thank you for reading. Please remember to share your views with me in the comment section below.❤️

27 thoughts on “Fine Prints✍️”

  2. Amali Joshua's avatarAmali Joshua

    we put ourselves and others under a lot of pain and pressure when we ignore the fine prints, those things we don’t see at a glance! Lovely write!!

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  3. Same's avatarSame

    God who created poor people is still the one who creates wealth, he has plans for any of use … so we don’t need to look down on anyone.

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  4. Olaitan's avatarOlaitan

    Lovely piece dearie… I laughed so hard at the jumpsuit part cos I remember ur expression the day you tried it on first😂
    It’s so relatable and I had learnt some important lesssons. It’s not just about us, we also frustrate the person(s) involved when we ignore the fine prints

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  5. Emmanuel's avatarEmmanuel

    “God alone can fix anyone ” that’s true… But I’ll like to be less metaphysical… Individuals are responsible for there actions “God alone” may imply foregoing of responsibility.

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    1. Anidom's avatarAnidom Post author

      It’s true that we have a role to play in being better people. But we can’t do it all on our own. They are habits that we try to stop on our own but aren’t able to, and the help of God is just what we need.

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  8. Bolanle Adegboro's avatarBolanle Adegboro

    “we assume that people are a certain way before actually getting to know them🤷🏽‍♀️, hence our high expectations and recurrent disappointments🤦🏽‍♀️😫.”

    That’s the problem my dear, making assumptions about people. Thank you so much for this beautiful piece. May God help us to stop trying to fix others and not to ignore the fine prints. Thank you dear☺️

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    1. Anidom's avatarAnidom Post author

      Honestly, it really is. It’d be much better if we can just give the people we come across blank sheets for them to fill up themselves, instead of doing that for them.
      Amen He will🙏
      Thank you dear❤️❤️

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    1. Anidom's avatarAnidom Post author

      Very true actually. Sometimes, we could be of great help to people💯. But we shouldn’t force them to be a certain way.

      Thank you for reading dear❤️❤️

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  11. Unknown's avatarAlbert

    It’s a nice piece I most say…. always calling us to consciousness with your insightful thoughts. “Fine prints” 🤣😊 “we put ourselves and others under a lot of pressure when we ignore the fine print”.

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      1. Emmanuel's avatarEmmanuel

        “God alone can fix anyone ” that’s true… But I’ll like to be less metaphysical… Individuals are responsible for there actions “God alone” may imply foregoing of responsibility.

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