I think they are two kinds of… uhmm… never mind, I don’t know how many kinds of people we have in the world. But I think I can say that some fall under either of these; “The Organised” or “The Spontaneous” in different situations they find themselves.
Me as a case study, falls under both in different areas but I’m more of an “Obsessive Planner”. I always want things to go a particular way and most times I feel scared of doing things I didn’t plan to do.
When there’s an unexpected test, an unforeseen holiday such as this very one we all have been forced to have, I always feel pressurised and scared. I’m among those who love to see things coming so I can plan carefully ahead. Truthfully, I’m an “Over-thinker”, “an Analyser”.
I don’t like to make “mistakes”, not even the “smallest” ones. I’m among those who will not want to resolve an issue immediately because I want to think of the best way possible to do it, without mistakes! We love consistency. We are those that ensure all our “Is” are dotted and out “Ts” crossed. We underline all our headings and ensure the lines are straight, we lay our beds smoothly, take note of details and observe those “little” things people don’t, even if we don’t say it. I can keep going but I think I’m even tired. This may seem weird to some of you, but yes, we exist. They call us perfectionists, oh well, what else do we expect to be called?
But in the course of the 19 years I’ve spent on Earth, I’ve come to learn that being The Organised is not always the best option. It makes certain things amazing yes but it also has a way of “destroying” us and those around us; we set these very high standards for ourselves and for others that it ends up making life difficult for us. We tend to do or not do things only if we have every reason to or not to do them. That is a life that can be critical and judgmental for us and our pals.
I personally started to know all these because I’ve really sat back to analyse many things, and my experiences have taught me a lot, not these alone but also because of certain people I listen to; Joyce Meyer being one of my favourites. I have learnt and I’m still learning a lot from her and her life, that I’ve realised I have to calm down and give people the space to be themselves, to have and express their opinions and to do just what they want to; not what I want them to do. You guys can really try her out, trust me you’ll learn a lot;beyond what you expect.
Being The Organised is who I am and who I’ll always be but with a lot of “software upgrade” as time passes.
I can’t say much about The Spontaneous but I know I admire them. They can explore more and their lives are full of adventures, unlike ours. They live in the moment and that is amazing. I don’t think the life of The Spontaneous is full of diamonds and pearls either, I’m pretty sure they have their struggles too. I don’t want to mention anything because I don’t know for sure. You’ll have to help me out with their strengths and weaknesses in the comment section.
I plan (well, I can’t help it) to do some spontaneous things this year. I have a very cool one in mind, but that’ll be story for another day. I’ll tell you how it went after I’ve done it.
I guess the best thing for us all to do is just to keep upgrading our “softwares” into better versions until we probably get the “perfect” mix of both categories; knowing fully well when to be organised and when to be spontaneous.
Please share your views with me. Tell me what category you fall under and how it has been for you. Don’t forget to share with others. Thank You.
I really like your lifestyle❤️. I've tried being a \”badass\” but ut didn't just work😂😂.
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I am very much miss spontaneous 😂. Like, honestly I get real headaches when I over think things, I just tell myself to calm down else I'll freak out or do what I call 'overdrive'. This doesn't mean that I don't think things through, at all. I do, especially for things I consider important or necessary, however, for the other things or situations that just come up, I find a way to handle them. Sometimes I do things knowing that it'll still backfire but because I'm in a 'badass' or in 'this is my life mood!'. This sponty life style works for me, it has it's advantages and disadvantages. For instance because I have no definite plan (or even when I eventually do), I find it hard to stick to my plan (cause of other small distractions that pop up) or I procrastinate 🙈. I also admire the other group of people, for their determination and perseverance. I wish they'd loosen up a bit too cause sometimes I get a bit nervous around them.
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I can totally relate. Hahaha. Planned spontaneous actions; this is so me!
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I’m soo in the organised group that even when I take “spontaneous actions” they are actually what I have thought about previously. I would jst sit and think about how I should act in that situation Nd this has held be back from doing a lot of things previously. I now make a conscious effort to act spontaneously anyway.
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Excelente… I guess we are birds of the same feathers..
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Though a thorough blend of both will be a great success for anyone as situation don't always come in the same way. They are some situations that require the \”lightbulb moment\” where you will be required to reacts suddenly… My case, I think I'm a blend of both to an extent… But more of an organized person as explained in your context.
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WOW!! You just wowed me with your response. I love your approach to life and I look forward to modifying myself as much. Thank you for sharing with me.
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Nice piece..well me,I think I find myself on both ends…I am more organized when I have to do something on my own or in most cases when I am alone..alone on chasing a goal,assignment or mission..but when it comes to a group thing,I become spontaneous to somethings even though in my head,I try to compose myself and ensure I don't get out of bound…Also,I grew to become spontaneous to opportunities,and I have been able to do well in this aspect by reminding myself with this principle ;\”Opportunity then preparation\”….so,basically I throw myself to opportunities(spontaneous) and go back to plan and give out my best(organized)….No doubt, I have some perfectionism in me,but on some level of equilibrium with spontaneity.
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